Book description from homeschooloasis.com
This excellent book will help you recognize unbiblical thinking and learn how to communicate effectively and healthily with your children. It is all about dealing with the heart!
It also outlines training objectives for each stage of childhood. It teaches how your objectives shift as infants grow into children and as children grow into teenagers. It will inspire you to become a different kind of parent ~ one who will raise different kids in a world that needs more of both!
Points that made an impact on me:
Parenting is shepherding the hearts of your children in the ways of God's wisdom.
Your children need to understand not only the “what” they did wrong, but also the internal “why” they did it.
What your children say and do is a reflection of what is in their heart.
The person your child becomes is a product of two things:
His life experience
How he interacts with that experience
Shaping influences: structure of family lie, family values, family roles, family response to failure, family history, family conflict resolution
Your children are responsible for the way they respond to your parenting.
Romans 2:14-15
Parenting must address both the shaping influences and their Godward orientation. Pray that God will work in and around your efforts and the responses of your children to make them people who honor God.
You need to address the heart Biblically.
You must be a person of long term vision.
God has called you to act on His behalf. You and your children are both under God's authority. Different roles, same master.
As a school administrator, I (the author), observe that most parents do not understand the appropriateness and necessity of being in charge of their child's life. Rather, parents take the role of advisor. The children are the decision maker; the parent only suggests options.
Children will be good decision makers as they observe faithful parenting, modeling and instruction, and using discretion and decision making on their behalf.
Preliminary to decision making is the importance for children to be under authority.
Deuteronomy 6:6-7- You must be involved in helping your child understand life, himself, and his needs from a biblical perspective.
Clear objectives
List child's strengths and weaknesses
figure out what you are going to do to strengthen the weak areas and encourage the strengths
with spouse, discuss short term and long term goals for your kids.
develop strategies for parenting
find our what God says about children and His requirements for them
focus correction upon attitudes of heart rather than behavior
Proper Biblical discipline is…
corrective, not punitive
and expression of love. Proverbs 3:12
There is a difference between discipline and punishment. We often confuse that.
Hi : ) I ordered this book about a week ago and I can’t wait to get it !! Thanks for the great review : )
Blessings,
BChsMamaof3