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Have you asked these questions: Can children obey when spoken to calmly and only one time? What is a child-run home? Can different children be held to the same standard? How can a parent know if a toddler understands simple directions? What are the characteristics of rebellion? What exactly is “sass” and how can it be stopped? Should children be required to eat and accept thankfully foods they don't enjoy? How can parents help children skip the “terrible two's,” the “trying three's,” and “rebellious teens”? Pastor Reb Bradley answers all these questions and more with God's heart and godly advice (not always synonymous!) in this excellent book!
My points of impact:
Raising and training are not the same. Scripture calls us to do both.
Define a goal of what you want your child to be and make a plan.
Goal one: Bring them to salvation.
Goal two: Bring them to maturity: self control, wisdom, responsibility
A child who learns to deny his own desires and submits to his parent's controls gains his own inner control.
Training is a consciuos effort of intstilling instruction, discipline, and modeling.
To become an effective child trianer requires that a parent understand exactly what God expects and how they are to achieve those results.
Out children must be prepared in their youth for the challenges they will find in life. They must learn that they cannot have everyhting they want, and that they can endure quite well with less than they hoped for.
To mature properly, children must learn when they are still toddlers-to obey their parents quickly and withough resistence and to endure hard situations.
Humbly, with their parent's help, thay can learn as early as possible to die to themselves, preparing them to live for Christ. Otherwise, as teenagers, they will remain self consumes, rebellious, and far from God.
Asking “why” after a comment shows resistence to parental authority and delays immediate obedience. It is disrespectful. (I am not sure if I agree with this; maybe age-dependent?)